Do you ever feel overwhelmed by your To-Do list and have too much to do at work ? Like - no matter what you do, it just keeps growing and growing and you just can't get ahead.Well, I've got a solution for you! Watch this week's quick video tip to learn a 5-minute strategy to help you stress less and celebrate more.
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I'm gonna keep this short and sweet.Listen - you CAN have balance: work that feels your soul and a life to match. But we all know it doesn't come easy. This week, I'm sharing the 3 things that you HAVE to do to achieve work life balance.
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“My career defines me; it’s who I am since I’ve graduated. But climbing [the corporate ladder] hasn’t made me happy and where I’m spending my energy is all wrong. Maybe I just need to be complacent and stop worrying about getting to the next level.”
This is the gist of a conversation I had with a new client earlier this week. I could sense the frustration and pain, and it was a feeling that was all too familiar. I’ve had the exact same work life balance issues.
You spend years building a successful career and teaching other people what to expect of you, but then one day, you wake up and realize you want something more than that.
But changing is not that easy. You can’t just wake up one day and instantly have a different life.
It takes work, determination, and sacrifice.
It requires consistency of action when you start to doubt your choices – ALL your choices.
It brings up all kinds of tough questions:
Where is the line between a strong work ethic and a balanced life?
How can I still feel good about the work that I’m doing when I take my foot of the pedal?
And will my peers view me as lazy or smart when I channel my drive into the pursuit of balance?
It takes a yearning deep in your core for something more: bigger, deeper, truer.
If that yearning is there, all the rest will fall into place.
Trust me.
I know because this was me just a handful of years ago. I woke up one day and realized that the life I was living wasn’t what I wanted – I was overworked and emotionally undernourished, constantly plugged in and perpetually disconnected, superficially successful and completely crushed on the inside. I knew I didn’t want to live that way anymore, and from that day forward, nothing was the same.
There were lots of bumps in the road on my journey – friends that came and went, jobs that inspired but exhausted me, jobs that bored me to tears, lessons learned on my yoga mat about who I was and what I wanted, and (perhaps) a few too many beers along the way.
There was also real connection – with my man, with friends, with family, trips abroad that affirmed how truly blessed and loved I was, nourishment for my body and soul, and professional opportunities that affirmed my worth.
Your journey will look completely different from mine. It will be YOURs and yours alone, but I am here to guide and support you along the way.
All you have to do is put up your hand and ask.
And feel that undying, ravenous urge inside of you to live the life of your dreams.
Are you ready?
"The more I pursue my passions, the more uncomplicated my life gets... It’s not the imbalance-ness that stresses me, it’s doing meaningless things that aren’t taking me where I want to go.” – Danielle LaPorte
One of the keys to living a balanced life is to fuel your passions at every chance you get.
But, there’s a big problem … so many of us have lost sight of our passions in the mundane, day-to-day routines. We’ve defined ourselves as girlfriends, wives, mothers, employees… but that’s not who we are or what we’re passionate about. That’s just a part of our lives and we can’t come completely to those roles without a deeper connection to our passions.
First, know that if you feel disconnected from your passions, you are not alone. When I was caught in my vicious work cycle, it felt like that was the only thing I had in my life – I was an engineer, a project manager, and a student.
For me, it took cutting the cords with that work to learn more about who I truly was. But, lucky for you, I’ve learned a few shortcuts along the way to help you get to the root of your passions without the 5-year soul searching journey that I went through.
To get started with finding your passions, answer these 5 questions as candidly and honestly as possible.
Don’t rush through; take your time. You might need to block out a couple hours on a Saturday afternoon or get up a ½ hour early to spend some quiet time journaling on this. Whatever it is, make the investment in you and finding the answers you need to start living a life filled with passion. You deserve it.
I’ve spent the last few weeks talking with smart, educated, successful women about a brand-new coaching program I’m launching soon. They’ve got credentials out the wazoo. They’ve got prestigious job titles and nice, fat paychecks. And they’ve got one thing in common: they’re lacking the confidence they need to live the life they dream of.
You know how I noticed? Because, I was in their shoes not terribly long ago and from time to time, I’m still wearing them around.
And it turns out this is an epidemic among women and the basis for a book called The Confidence Code (being added to my to-read list ASAP).
I talked a few weeks ago about 6 Tips to Up Your Confidence at Work, but what I’ve really honed in on over the past few weeks is that THIS ISN’T JUST ABOUT THE OFFICE.
It bleeds into every area of our lives – from not speaking up in a meeting, to wanting to lose “the last 10 pounds” (seriously, this must be some kind of magic number, because I heard it from every single woman), to feeling guilty about taking time away from work or family to care for themselves.
Ladies, this is a real problem.
If you’re looking for ways to up your confidence every day, try one of these quick-fix recommendations (courtesy of The Confidence Cure):
Research suggests that women won’t seek a promotion unless they feel they have close to 100 percent of the qualifications, while men will go for it if they think they have just 60 percent.
Now, there’s definitely a sweet spot here, and my hat’s off to the guys for figuring this one out. You want to find a role that you excel at (60% of the qualifications) but that also pushes you outside of your comfort zone and allows you to grow (40% learning curve).
This ages-old adage just needs to die. Now.
In the age of social media, there’s pressure from all sides to look and act a certain way: to have the perfect job, incredibly fun weekend adventures, exotic vacations, and be pretty and polished for a selfie at any given moment.
But, guess what? Life doesn’t work like that. And pretending it does is creating major anxiety for us.
Let go of the expectations and ease into what's real in the present moment.
As successful women, we’re programmed to believe that failure is bad. But failure is our best teacher and when we allow ourselves to go all in and fail fast, we learn best of all.
“Failing fast allows for constant adjustment, testing, and quick movement toward what will actually work. The beauty is that when you fail fast, or early, you have a lot less to lose. Usually you are failing small, rather than spectacularly. And you have a lot to gain from learning as you fail.” (Source: theConfidenceCode.com)
And, if you’re curious where your confidence stands relative to other women, take the free Confidence Quiz over at theConfidenceCode.com. (I scored a medium)