Is it complacency or balance? The heart of work life balance issues.

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“My career defines me; it’s who I am since I’ve graduated.  But climbing [the corporate ladder] hasn’t made me happy and where I’m spending my energy is all wrong.  Maybe I just need to be complacent and stop worrying about getting to the next level.”

This is the gist of a conversation I had with a new client earlier this week.  I could sense the frustration and pain, and it was a feeling that was all too familiar.  I’ve had the exact same work life balance issues.

You spend years building a successful career and teaching other people what to expect of you, but then one day, you wake up and realize you want something more than that. 

But changing is not that easy.  You can’t just wake up one day and instantly have a different life. 

It takes work, determination, and sacrifice. 

It requires consistency of action when you start to doubt your choices – ALL your choices. 

It brings up all kinds of tough questions:

Where is the line between a strong work ethic and a balanced life? 

How can I still feel good about the work that I’m doing when I take my foot of the pedal? 

And will my peers view me as lazy or smart when I channel my drive into the pursuit of balance?

It takes a yearning deep in your core for something more: bigger, deeper, truer.

If that yearning is there, all the rest will fall into place. 

Trust me.

I know because this was me just a handful of years ago.  I woke up one day and realized that the life I was living wasn’t what I wanted – I was overworked and emotionally undernourished, constantly plugged in and perpetually disconnected, superficially successful and completely crushed on the inside.  I knew I didn’t want to live that way anymore, and from that day forward, nothing was the same.

There were lots of bumps in the road on my journey – friends that came and went, jobs that inspired but exhausted me, jobs that bored me to tears, lessons learned on my yoga mat about who I was and what I wanted, and (perhaps) a few too many beers along the way. 

There was also real connection – with my man, with friends, with family, trips abroad that affirmed how truly blessed and loved I was, nourishment for my body and soul, and professional opportunities that affirmed my worth.

Your journey will look completely different from mine.  It will be YOURs and yours alone, but I am here to guide and support you along the way.

All you have to do is put up your hand and ask.

And feel that undying, ravenous urge inside of you to live the life of your dreams. 

Are you ready?