5 Things You Have to Do This Holiday Weekend

It’s here... Memorial Day: the unofficial kickoff to summer! In celebration of all things summer – HEAT, dresses, salty hair, flip flops, beaches, BBQS, camping, vacations, farmer’s markets, and fireworks (just a few of my favorite things), let’s all agree to savor every second of this 3-day weekend.  Here’s the 5 things on my must-do list this weekend – what’s on yours?

1. Sleep In

The older I get, the less sleeping in on the weekend feels like a given and the more it feels like a luxury.  I plan on spending at least one morning this weekend cuddled up with my husband and kitties, listening to the sounds of my neighborhood as it wakes up, and having a super relaxing start to the day.

2. Disconnect

Lately, I’ve been making a conscious effort to put my phone down and connect with people in real life more.  This weekend, I’m really going to challenge myself by turning my phone off for a full 24-hours.

enjoy people
enjoy people

3. Get Outside

Living in a city, it can be easy to feel trapped in the “concrete jungle”, but I’m thankful to live in a city with a robust park system (seriously, did you know Philadelphia has the largest landscaped park in the US?).    I’m not sure I’ll be able to escape to the mountains this weekend, but I’ll definitely be enjoying some of the amazing outdoor spaces Philly has to offer – whether Fairmount Park or the riverfront. 

4. Try Something New

While I consider myself pretty risk-averse, I love an adventure.  I love trying new things… in a safe space.  I’m not sure what I’ll do yet, but I plan on getting out of my comfort zone and doing something I’ve never done before.

5. Cook a Delicious Meal

I’ll be honest… these days I rarely have time to cook a fancy meal.  Dinner’s are usually grilled fish and steamed vegetables, but this week I’ll be cracking open some of my favorite cookbooks and experimenting in my kitchen and on my grill.

cook at home
cook at home

No matter what you're up to, have a great time and enjoy some well-earned time off!  xo.

Is it OK to be lazy?

As a culture, we’re a bunch of overachievers.  We make things happen... and we make things happen fast.  There’s lots of going, doing, being and more, more, MORE.There’s not a whole lot of lazy.

As a go-getter, being lazy is something I struggle with a lot.  Being lazy feels...well... lazy.  It feels bad.  I feel like I should ALWAYS be doing something. 

I often ask myself: Is it OK to be lazy?

Lazy can be great and healthy and goal-affirming if it’s done correctly.

When I was totally burnt out from my job in consulting, I’d spend entire weekends immobilized on my couch because I was too mentally and physically exhausted to do anything else.  This is the BAD side of lazy.  There’s no joy in that.

So, what’s the difference between good lazy and bad lazy?

Good lazy is done with intention.  It’s taking a leisurely walk.  Savoring coffee with a friend.  A well thought out movie marathon.  Spending an afternoon reading a good book.

is it okay to be lazy
is it okay to be lazy

Bad lazy is done out of helplessness and exhaustion. When your head is telling you that you need to be doing something productive, but your heart is telling you to chill the f out, that’s bad lazy.   The argument between the head and the heart actually leads to more stress.  And nobody needs that.

Bad lazy is non-stop bad reality TV benders.  It’s getting lost down the Buzzfeed rabbit hole.  It’s ordering takeout for 5 days in a row because your kitchen’s a mess and you don’t want to clean it.

So, how do we do more good and less bad lazy?

Remember, the distinction is all about INTENTION.  First, give yourself the permission to be lazy.  Then, use this handy fill-in-the-blank affirmation:

Today, I am going to fully enjoy   ________________________ because it makes me feel _________________________________  (think: at ease, joyful, relaxed, etc.). 

Declare it out loud – hearing your own voice say it will be affirming and will make it more real for you.

Are you like me – is lazy sometimes a struggle?  Share your thoughts on being lazy in the comments.

Take a Vacation Without Going Anywhere

It’s the Fourth of July – a day when most of us get the opportunity to kick back, relax, and celebrate our independence. This got me thinking... about independence, about vacations, and about giving ourselves a BREAK.

take a vacation alaska cruise
take a vacation alaska cruise

Did you know that a 2012 report commissioned by Expedia.com indicates that most employees take even LESS time off than they are allotted through their company?   Worse still, 28% of those polled said they didn’t take vacation for work-related reasons.  And for those lucky ones who actually did get some time off?  34% of them reported checking work email regularly or constantly while on vacation (note: I have definitely been one of the 34%).

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am ALL for having a career you love and putting your best feet forward, but you have to balance hard work with downtime.  Your body needs time to recuperate, regenerate, and refresh in order for you to be the best employee possible. 

take a vacation sunset beach philippines
take a vacation sunset beach philippines

Let’s think about this another way.  In ten years, will your company say, “Wow, we’re so happy Ms. X didn’t take that weeklong vacation to Peru.  This place would have just CRUMBLED.”  Nope, they won’t.But in ten years, you’ll say “I wish I’d taken that trip to Peru when I’d had the chance.”  You never know what obligations you’ll have THEN.

That all being said, maybe you just can’t take a real vacation this year.  That’s OK. 


You can take a vacation any where, any time. 

Here are three suggestions for taking a vacation without (really) going anywhere.

Take a Media Break

We are all absolutely BOMBARDED every hour of every day with information – whether from TV, radio, online news sources, or social media – it can be hard to escape.  I challenge you to UNPLUG for just ONE DAY.  It’s amazing how relaxed you’ll feel.

Be a Tourist in Your Own Town

Whether you live in the big city or a small town, chances are there are parts of your area that you’ve never seen.  Spend a day exploring where you live.

This could mean hiking a new trail, walking through a new neighborhood, going on a guided tour, or checking out a new restaurant.  Notice that keyword ‘new’ here – the trick is to do something DIFFERENT than you normally do.

Give Yourself the Spa Treatment

 Can’t afford a fancy spa weekend?  Instead, spread out spa-like appointments over the course of a week.

Go to a yoga class on Monday, get a mani/pedi on Tuesday, get your hair done on Wednesday, visit a juice bar on Thursday, and treat yourself to a massage on Friday.  Enjoy the spa aspect of each day for what each individually gives to you.  If even this is a stretch for you, take just a couple hours at home and give yourself the spa treatment there.  Take a bubble bath, paint your toes, put on a face mask – whatever it is you enjoy doing... Just do it.

I, myself, won’t have the opportunity to take a ‘real’ vacation this year, but I will definitely be implementing all three of these strategies to take me to that vacation mindset

What about you?  What can you do to enjoy a vacation without going anywhere?  Leave your thoughts in the comments.