My company, all my professional networking groups, and everything I read about happiness for the career-focused, purpose-driven woman touted balance as the solution to all my problems. 

 

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And while the idea of balance always seemed dreamy and idyllic, there’s something about it that eluded me for years.


Everywhere I looked I saw women living and working in extremes.  They were either ALL IN or ALL OUT.   Was anyone really "making this work"?

Can balance actually exist?


Look, I know balance is a touchy subject... and for good reason.  


You might be adamantly for it or ready to scream at the top of your lungs that it's total BS.


Maybe you're tossing around phrases like "work life integration", because that simple change helps you sleep at night.  You can call it whatever you want.  

The truth is... we all want the same damn thing:  


We want to go to bed at night knowing we made a difference in someone's life and wake up in the morning inspired to do it all over again.  


We want to stop feeling guilty about the life we're missing out on when we're working and we want to stop feeling guilty about the living we're doing when we "should be" working.


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Somewhere along the way, someone told us what we're doing (which is EVERYTHING) isn't enough.  So we keep pushing...  as soon as we hit one milestone, we're on to the next.


This constant striving for more - the inner drive that all of us over-achievers have  - leaves us feeling exactly the opposite of what we want.  Instead of happy and fulfilled, we're exhausted, stressed, burnt out and totally OUT OF BALANCE.


It's cliche, I know, but life is way too short to spend your time living solely for other people and ignoring what YOU need.

If you're craving balance but letting burnout and exhaustion run the show...

If you're missing out on important moments with your family because of work...

If you're constantly feeling overwhelmed and pulled in a million different directions...


IF YOU’RE PUTTING EVERYONE ELSE’S NEEDS AHEAD OF YOUR OWN... 

If you're weighed down by guilt... at work... & at home...


NOW is the time to make a change.  

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance.

-Thomas Merton

A handful of years ago, I was in the midst of aggressively driving my career forward, working 80 hours a week, while going to grad school part-time and seriously, seriously hating my life.  

 

Nothing I did ever felt like enough, but I was beyond exhausted by constantly pushing for the NEXT thing.  My marriage was failing and the more stressed I got, the faster the number on the scale climbed.  I desperately wanted to leave my mark on the world, but THIS WAS NOT WHAT I SIGNED UP FOR


I’d been taught my whole life that working hard was the single most important factor in being successful, so I worked my ass off.


Working HARDER than anyone else is what I brought to the table. 
 

That’s what I thought would get me ahead.  And, sure, I ended up very successful.  But outward success didn’t seem to translate inward. 


I was miserable and my body was SCREAMING at me to pay attention: I packed on pounds, balanced my alcohol cravings with equal doses of caffeine, and suffered from that ‘tired but wired’ feeling that kept me up half the night.

 

I FELT SO BURNT OUT.

SO OVERWHELMED

SO TIRED

SO UNAPPRECIATED

SO ANGRY.  

SO GUILTY.

SO MISUNDERSTOOD.

SO DESPERATE TO "MAKE IT WORK".  
 

AND SO FRUSTRATED THAT I WAS DOING ALL THE
“RIGHT” THINGS AND YET I WAS SO UNHAPPY.


But at the same time...

I was conflicted

 

Despite the long hours, I actually loved my job and I didn't want to give up everything I'd worked so hard for, but I doubted I could maintain a successful career and balance any semblance of a personal life.

 

The reality was I just couldn’t wrap my head around how to align my strong work ethic and desire to be successful with the lifestyle I craved - a happy marriage, an awesome social life, and the down time I knew I needed to really care for my mind & body. 

 

I couldn't see a way out.

So, I quit my job.  


It saved my failing marriage and my waistline, but it lead me into a professional tailspin that had me hopping from job to job to job – 5 of them, in fact, in just 3 years. 


I wouldn't wish that on anybody... but I sure did learn a lot during that time.  


When I look back, everything that I've learned since shows me that it wasn’t the job that needed to change.  It was me. 


We are often at war with ourselves...You have to find that balance between your heart and your mind.

-Anonymous

 

After quitting, I spent the next 5 years learning everything I could about what I needed to do to have a successful career & a balanced, happy life.


Now, I live a truly balanced life - a career I love, an incredible marriage, stress-free time to enjoy family and friends, & the time and space to care for myself.  

 

If you are questioning if there's a better way for you to be successful, 
I can assure you there is.

 

BALANCE CAN EXIST, BUT YOU HAVE TO CREATE IT FOR YOURSELF.  

 

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If you're ready to finally find the balance you are desperately needing, I am here to shorten your learning curve and teach you everything I know - because I don't want you to spend years figuring this out.  You can have balance NOW.

 

I want your investment in yourself to be an easy “YES!”,
so let’s get on quick complimentary call where I can give you
all the details to decide if my support is the best option for you. 

 


The Creds

(because we all secretly care about pieces of paper)

  • BS & MS in Environmental Engineering
  • Certified Holistic Health Coach (AADP & Institute for Integrative Nutrition)
  • Certified Life Coach (The Secret to Life Coaching)
  • Full-time data analyst
  • 200-hr Certified Yoga Teacher (YogaLife)
  • PiYo Certified Instructor (Beachbody)
  • All Around Bad-Ass (Editor's Embellishment)

 

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Plus a few other things you might like to know:

I’m based in Philadelphia, PA with my husband, Mike, and our two cats, Eenie and Cat Benatar.  When I’m not working, I spend my time crossfitting, teaching yoga, drinking soy lattes, taste-testing pancakes, and enjoying tall, dark, and handsome beers. 


Stephanie's Professional Bio:

Stephanie holds a BS in Environmental Engineering from Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute and a MS in Environmental Engineering & Water Resources from Villanova University.  As a working professional with almost 10 years of experience in industries ranging from Environmental Consulting, Education, Public Sector, and Information Technology, she is well equipped to handle the unique set of challenges that working professionals face.

Stephanie followed her passion for health, wellness and work-life balance and became a board-certified Health Coach through the internationally recognized Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) in September of 2013.  She has completed advanced studies through IIN’s Immersion Program and is a certified as a Life Coach through The Secret to Life Coaching.

Stephanie currently works as an independent Work Life Balance Coach.  She is a complex problem solver and designer at heart and provides a systematic approach to helping her clients create healthier, more balanced lives. 

Stephanie has been featured in The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Tiny Buddha, and The Engineering Career Coach and has presented to large and small companies and professional groups including Verizon, Disney, KPMG, US NAVY, and the Association for Women in Science (AWIS).

Stephanie holds a 200-hr yoga teacher training certification, is an avid runner, and has fallen in love with lifting heavy things (aka weight lifting).  She lives in a 150-year old row home in Philadelphia, PA with her husband.